Why Some Children Don't Like Hanging Out With You

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A child thrives in relationship to a vibrational equal.

I used to work in a daycare as the nanny or teacher and quickly learned, to my surprise - or maybe not, that kids love to hang out with me. My presence felt easy and natural to them as I friendly invited them into the room with toys and books, ready for them to enjoy.

What did I do to make them feel at home? Why do crying babies rediscover their peace as I carry them? Why do kids love to come back to me for more playtime? I'll explain it to you here.

Children still breathe self-love, adults often don't. Children, more than most adults, are still in love with themselves. They aren't preoccupied with the possible judgements of others, because they haven't yet encountered that as much.

As we mature into life we get so many points of view rendered our way. And not only views, also emotions and feelings of discomfort.

If we don't make a deliberate choice to stay sure and conscious of who we are - e.g. worthy and beautiful - we will start to internalise these impressions and let them affect how we feel and behave, today.

Children however, are yet to be shaped and thus are for the most part, but unfortunately with exception (it's already during pregnancy that trauma can be created), free of this baggage - instantly making them a match to anyone else that's free from it, too.

Children can't hear you, because they don't speak 'disconnection'.

It's basically an understanding-bias, a miscommunication process, that's going on when children don't vibe with you or somebody else - showing you or the other person the disconnection that you are living from your true and authentic self in that very moment since they just can't vibe with you.

Children are very well aware of the dissonance they feel from you and will most likely ignore, or show a lack of interest for adults who are:

• trying too hard to get their attention (for self-approval);

• agitated;

• trying to please them;

• unsure of themselves;

• manipulative;

• and so on.
  

Not out of disrespect, but out of dignity.

Even with the best of intentions from an adult, and the mildest form of manipulation tactics that you would judge as effective, the majority of children will not confide. (Until an adult starts calling them bad kids, makes them afraid or starts forcefully imposing their will).

Blessing in disguise.

It is of course a blessing to be treated this way by a child, for any adult that is eager to release some of their limiting beliefs and behavioural patterns and work their way into more confidence, trust, peace and bliss.

In summary.

In summary, children feel drawn to adults who emanate peace, comfort, self-confidence and ease.

These are the characteristics of love, of worth and of a spiritual trust in life.

These are the characteristics that come natural to kids and how they view the world and themselves.

It is in this kind of ambiance that they will reveal more of their own authentic personality and interest and it is here that they will feel the desire to relate to you in loving connection.

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